Tuesday, July 27, 2010

The Hair Blanket

I could write an entire diatribe on our culture's messed up view of beauty. I really could. I am actually getting a little irritated just thinking about it. Because what kind of culture would dare to try and convince this little girl that she is anything but gorgeous?

But, they do. And so, sometimes, she wishes that she had lighter skin and long flowing hair. I know that's not unusual for any little girl. I'm told that Loren's little sister, Connie, was pretty bald for the first two years of her life and would look longingly at little girls with long hair. I can remember wishing mine was curly and wild. ( I have the crazy perm pictures to prove it!)

I know that there are all kinds of ways to make Hope's hair longer. Weaves, relaxing it, wigs, etc. But, I guess I'm hoping that she will learn to really love her natural hair before we experiment with any of those things. And, in truth, I secretly wish that she would just flaunt a rockin' natural afro all of her life and always feel as beautiful as she is without any additions. :) For now, she has settled for this.

It's her own creation, fixed with a safety pin in the back and made out of a blanket I made her last year when Ava was born. She calls it her hair blanket and it is a fairly regular fixture on top of her head. She likes to feel like her hair is blowing in the breeze and she likes that it swishes when she moves her head. She proudly wears it out and I proudly let her because she is darn cute in a hair blanket, too.

Most of the time, though, we are all natural and on most days, I don't think Hope struggles with self image. I know that is in large part due to that fact that she has a daddy who has taught her how not to take herself too seriously.


And a daddy who loves her unconditionally and tells her often what a beautiful gift from God she is.
So, I think she's gonna be alright. Cause I never underestimate a daddy's determination to see his daughter delighted with who God made her to be.

7 comments:

Katie said...

Oh, I love that last picture. I've been reading Bringing Up Girls by James Dobson and I'm so thankful that my husband is doing most of the things Dobson suggests fathers need to be doing for their daughters. I am really enjoying the book, also. Great post!!

Katie said...

And your girl is BEAUTIFUL!

Melodie said...

beautiful girl and beautiful hair!

Amanda said...

I read it, too, Katie...and so did Loren. It was great and had some great advice as we bring up our little ladies!

Molly said...

Love, love, love this post. I too think that girls need to love their natural hair. Part of that comes when a mother loves her daughters hair. So many black girls hear constantly about how awful their hair is and how hard it is to take care of. The fact that Hope hears how much you love her just the way she is will make all the difference in the world. Keep it up Mama. I am so proud of you and I don't even really know you. Oh no...that makes me weird, huh?

adrianne + will said...

Your sweet girl is just gorgeous! People would love to have those long eyelashes and big bright beautiful eyes! What a doll!

Jess said...

I have always thought she was amazingly beautiful but those shots certainly prove it!! It is extremely difficult both being a woman and raising a new generation of women in a society that places so much value on appearance and "perfection", whatever that may be. . .
Thank you so much for writing this. Your daughters are incredibly lucky to have parents who foster a healthy sense of self-esteem. What an amazing foundation you guys are creating for them! Your kiddos make me smile. Such little sweeties!!